Let me just start out this post with a little note that I bought this book am discussing it purely of my own choice, and these opinions are entirely personal.
So, I actually read this book quite a while ago and am only now getting around to writing about it. I'm guessing it's because I had such a struggle reading it. Honestly this book left me feeling bad about myself. I think it can be a wonderful resource to those newly diagnosed, or those that do not have severe RA. I found myself flinging this book onto the floor several times with my husband gently reminding me that I should not be reading something that makes me feel so bad.
The thing is this: the author stopped taking all meds prior to even trying to get pregnant, then remaining off of them while trying, and continuing to do so while pregnant. I do not have this luxury. I stopped taking meds for a weekend (and even then I was taking tylenol!) and was unable to move on monday. I can't imagine the past 10 months with no meds. The author was also able to take time from work to cope with the pain associated with taking nothing. A one-income household just does not cut it for us right now.
In a way, this book felt priveledged to me. I know that a lot of women cease taking medications while trying to get pregnant, but not all of us can. I also felt that there wasn't enough depth to the suggestions for coping. I wanted specifics of great ways of carrying your baby when dealing with RA in your arms, or easier clothes to put on your baby, that kind of thing. I wanted more meat.
I guess my issue is that I just couldn't relate to this book. Her experience is so vastly different than mine, and I wanted to read something that spoke to me. All in all, this book was not for me, but like I said, I think it could be beneficial to women who have low to moderate RA and are relatively newly diagnosed.
I hope this post wasn't too harsh. I don't want to come across as mean, just that it wasn't helpful to me. I have to continue taking meds while trying to conceive, and I don't need to feel anymore guilty about that then I already do. I completely respect Suzie Edward May and the choices that she made, and the fact that she was able to have children without also needing meds. I just wish that there were a book out there that related to my story, you know?